People who have children this way often place too much importance on genes while ignoring the environment. It’s like, “This is what our family is going to look like. We’re going to pick a kid, and this is how we’re going to put it together. Mom’s going to be in charge of the whole thing.” It’s like a project or building a company. People don’t always realize they are creating a human being and not a piece of furniture.
In Silicon Valley, there are many distant parents—usually fathers—who hardly know their children. Sometimes the mom and child don’t bond, either. There are a lot of men who are extremely successful and want things a certain way. They tend to get what they want and don’t hear “no” a lot. So when their kid shows up and isn’t the way that they want, what happens?
Usually, it’s a disaster.
